Increased abortion laws, lower marriage/dating rates, kids are expensive and the family courts favor the mother flooding the market with single moms, and then scare tactic news reports like this…
50% of males under 30 are still virgins. It’s probably higher since some men would never admit it.
Are the courts supposed to force women to stay married?
What other antiquated bs should we bring back? Slavery?
Sheesh.
No, they should have a default 50/50 for fathers that WANT to be involved in their children’s lives instead of blindly awarding the mother primary while rejecting the father so the state can collect the federal child support match from the federal government (66 cents on the dollar)
Texas is notorious for doing this and it is scaring away good potential fathers.
Cause and effect.
No Fault divorce plus rarely getting to see your children if the relationship goes south is a pretty big deterrent for relationships/sex
Please don’t derail another thread with this.
It’s the same crap every time. Why bother even having this forum?
So, custody issues and not divorce. Got it. Say that next time.
Also, why should one or both have to prove to a court their divorce is justified? If I don’t want to be married to someone a court shouldn’t be able to force me or them to stay. That’s insane.
2 times per week and married so I’m great. Gotta marry the right girl. I do so much working etc and she said “baby I know you need it “, so again marry right. Don’t marry or date a entitled bi…ch.
Im referring to sex which leads to babies which. In this country, custody heavily favors women IF the relationship goes south.
News flash: not ALL births are in a marriage and Texas is one the top 25% of OUT of wed lock births.
I never said anyone should be forced to stay IN a bad marriage but good fathers SHOULD have at least 50/50 IF they are fit responsible safe fathers and can adequately support their child in resources AND time
Lol normalize prenups, only not a social norm until it becomes one
I agree , the laws need to change and both pay for kids equally if a break up happens. It’s too slated towards favoring women where the guy is screwed if kids happen with a divorce. The courts originally did this so states don’t have a welfare crises but that was long ago before women got into the workplace. Nowadays women can earn what men do so the laws are outdated. Again I have many guy friends opting out of marriage bc of divorce rates and how messed up a guy can be having to pay child support for 18 yrs and judges don’t care if the guy has a job or not but base payments on skill level or college Ed and they simply say $$$ per yr based on potential then it’s pay or jail. A friend of mine in New Orleans had 3 kids then divorced then he was forced to pay then when he couldn’t he went to La penitentiary. The judge said your an engine mechanic on planes and placed a judgment based on the salary he should make regardless if he had a job or not. It’s no longer fair to just go after guys when women can make the same money today. I’m for women being equal in all ways and so laws need to catch up. Guys are opting out of marriage bc of this mess.
I have a daughter also so I’m not bias against women but feel laws are outdated.
Also no fault divorce needs to go away.
You nailed it.
It was orginally a post depression “finder fee” incentive for states to track down absentee fathers and force them to pay child support because it was assumed single mothers would be on/or near the welfare line and it took the load off the backs of the federal government.
What its turned into is a pyramid scheme where states turn away GOOD present fathers, under the guise of “in the best interest of the child” so the state can recoup 66 cents, on the dollar, for every dollar the AG puts into the system even if the mom makes more than the dad
Go on any father’s rights boards and you can read thousands of stories where good fathers spent $10k/ $50k/$100k or more, with a pile of supporting evidence, to request 50/50 access to THEIR children only to be turned away.
So back to this subject…men today saw their dads, uncles, friends struggle and they are collectively saying:
The juice isn’t worth the squeeze anymore
Change the laws and culture will follow
. Here you go
My former boss was a trust fund, Ivy League adjacent type that lives near Rice Village. She sends all her kids to private schools that are hovering 20-30K/year
After getting to know her quite well and everything, I just can’t ever imagine sending kids to public schools if I had kids.
Part of the reason I’m really hesitant to have children (other than climate change) is that I simply cannot provide them the kind of lifestyle that is largely exclusive to the upper class
That said, that ain’t stopping me from doing the deed per se, but just alluding to the birth rate stat
Prenups are normalized in the upper class (or general trusts/estate planning)
Yes, but that applies to none of the “working class”.